I spoke with her directly to tell her what was going to be happening when we went to see the doctor together. I explained what had happened previously and why she had this upcoming appointment. Janet’s caregiver said, “Don’t bother. She won’t remember anyway.”
The caregiver made the comment in front of Janet, as if she wasn’t even there. Janet deserved respect as a person, and a patient, even if she was going to forget about it minutes later. In the moment, she could hear what was being said and possibly understand the meaning. She could have been a part in the discussion.
Every person, regardless of memory or condition, deserves to be looked at in the eye and addressed directly. If they are able to communicate, I believe having a conversation gives a sense of comfort in the moment. That comfort is worth having the conversation, even if it isn’t remembered.